Living in a joint family is not easy. It needs patience and emotional strength. You have been married for 10 years and you always tried to keep the relationship peaceful. But when your mother-in-law keeps interfering, it creates fights between you and your husband– and it is natural to feel hurt and ignored in such times. Every wife wants love, respect, and support from her husband, and when his attention goes somewhere else, it really pains the heart.
But remember— marriage improves with calm talks, not arguments. Your husband holds a strong bond with his mother and he could be feeling stuck between you and her. He too must be stressed about this whole situation. Choose a peaceful time and speak to your husband. Don’t blame him; just share how you feel in those moments. Say “I feel hurt when…” instead of “You always do this.” Respect his relationship with his parents, but gently remind him that your marriage also needs boundaries and balance. Spend more personal time with him, like going on walks, or dinners, so that the bond between you two gets stronger and healthy. And you both feel safe to share your inner feelings. When the bond gets stronger, there will be no room for miscommunication or misunderstandings.
At the same time, focus on yourself too. Do things that make you happy — work, hobbies, self-care. When you grow from inside, you become stronger and more confident, and it helps you handle family situations better.
